Mindset

What is Mindset?

Does it really matter? 

How one can read their mindset?

Does it helps in build our innerself? and lot....

These were the few questions ⁉️ I have mentioned and there are many questions in the queue. 

To answer these questions, first I need a mindset to write and yes i did it, without further ado, this blog is all about a book which helped to understand what is Mindset, what are the types, how it works and how i can apply in my life and so on. 

This book contains 8 main chapter with sub sections and this book delivers the facts not just a story. The author is a Doctorate in Psychology and she had done a meticulous job on writing this book. In the cover page you will get this quote "Changing the way you think to fulfil your potential" just read that lines twice and then start reading this book. 

I bought this book from the Chennai Book Fair 2024 and I would say every book is an investment and don't hesitate to invest in yourself. Just read and you know the insights and value of each book. 

The author describes there are two mindsets. One is the Growth Mindset and the another one is Fixed Mindset. And what are abilities and achievements do when he has a growth mindset and how he turns every failure into a possible way of learning and how he controls his emotions as well. She explained about the effects of fixed mindset with real examples in this book. 

Actually she did her research in finding the mindset of people i guess and her work is an art even though she did that in psychology. She used her study on people and explain about each study which she took during her research. Everything matters, even positive appraisal will make someone to fix their mindset a fixed one. Also the fixed minded people can change even they accept and understand it. 

It a big process and she gives us technics to understand and how we need to go through it. She explained that as a jorunery to our life. 

There are four steps in that jorunery. 

Once you read this book you will get a clear picture of Mindset. You might get a chance to answer yourself. Try to go through your emotions and once you start understanding your emotions and mindset then you become a Life Learner.....

To concluded, the work she made and the time she spend on this book is worth reading and i would suggest everyone to read this book. I want to share the technics which she told in this book but when you read this book you understand yourself and make your own journey. So Happy Reading. 

The Book is "Mindset" by Dr.Carol S. Dweck. 

Rating 4.5/5 ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ✨ 

(✨ Half star)

Bonus points 

1. Read her acknowledgement

2. Chapter 6 (5)

3. Chapter 8 (13)

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Solve it...

It was a random doomscroll night and after my dinner i started scrolling reels in Instagram and suddenly a reel pops up from a page called 'Practical Psychology' where there were some words which can form a new word if you try to arrange in another order. The words were

1. PAN

2. ART

3.DUST

4.SAVE

5.MARRIED

It was easy for me at the beginning and i solved those words within seconds, Pan to Nap, Art to Rat, Dust to stud and Save to Vase, these words are kind of familiar and i didn't put much efforts on these words and the reel was made in the way I can take my time to solve and guess the answer. The last word revealed and it was the word 'Married', i thought it would be easy and i don't want to see the answer, so i decided to work on that particular word. After about 5 mins i got tired and felt failed but I didn't gave up, i tried lot of combinations but failed 'Dreamir', 'Rairdem', 'Arridem' and so on.

It was a seven letter word so basically the permutations of 7! which is 5040, this shows that the word can be arranged in 5040 different combinations and i was really frustrated after 15 mins, i thought of seeing the answer but i told myself "you can see the answer and get regret for the week or else try till the night and find the answer then sleep happily". The growth mindset helped here even though my fixed mindset argue with me that it's a waste of time. I started solving using different strategies like ending with 'der' 'dar' 'ed' 'ar' still the result was not i expected but I showed complete interest on the learning. Then after 25 minutes of trying a word i got the answer by using the strategy 'AD' at the beginning and i started thinking the words which as this letters in the front. 

Finally the answer "Admirer" after finding the answer i Googled it for the word and it said it is a noun which means a person who has a particular regard for someone or something. Then i searched that insta page to verify the answer and it was correct, i was extremely happy and told myself you did it and you deserve it. Hardwork and learning and the failures throughout the process helped me to find the answer which is The Success. 

In conclusion of the reel, it describe the people who were success seaker, the imprisoned and the hardworker. 

1. Success seaker who found every word and Started visualising the success 

2. The one who tried but failed in the first and thought of quiting it 

3. The one who failed in the first few attempts but still work for the result of the last one and he finally succeeded

Guess what, i might have see the answer in seconds and it would be really regret for me this week but then i choose the hard part but still i learnt how to fail, how to make a startergy and how success feels. 

It's really hard to get something but the efforts, time and the hardwork never fails so keep pushing and keep reaching and keep learning. 

Jog for life...

Jog for life? Is it a marathon? Some drug Awareness? 

Nope, it's a WhatsApp Group which we Selaiyurians created to jog everyday morning, but unfortunately we never gone for a single jog after creating that group...

You might ask me then what's the reason i am Posting this blog. There is a reason behind that, after completing the book "The One Thing", I started to think a lot on finding my purpose in my life. Everyday a new question booms, started stressing myself and even bing something on internet for no reason. 

Then i decided to slowdown the process, first i calm down myself, take a deep breath and started visualising thing, for instance if i want to cook but my mind is not stable and i am very hungry. In this case, first i took a deep breath, plan my food, starts visualising my food. If i plan to cook rasam, i started think about the flavour, taste, and texture of my comfortable food. In the end, i came up with my comfortable and nutritious food which makes both my mind and my body happy. 

The Lesson: To attain feel good sensation, try to visualise or manifest your needs to yourself and then do, in the process you will learn, find something new and the end you attain your goals with love of doing it. 

Let's come to the jog for life, i started jogging on July 1st 2025, right now i guess i might have lost approximately 1kg of my body weight. First to make myself available is a great deal, then consoling my mindset is another task and after two to three days of continuous jogging my body ask me to take rest and don't go for jogging, now i used the art of visualising, I just ask myself what inspire you to do jog, why you want to jog, what the purpose of jogging and more questions raised. I replied to myself " you have achieved three days of jogging, just go for 3 more days and then will decide on further jogging or not" Days gone, now without even realising my mind i stretched myself and go for a jog at sharp 5.50 PM after days of pushing and strech. Now it becomes a habit with a great discipline....

In conclusion of this blog, every time you think you're lazy and I don't want to do things, just be lazy, don't do anything and then once your mind tells you something which makes you feel low, grasp that low feeling convert it into a feel good sensation. Start from your comfort zone, try to visualise the world after the doorstep of your comfortzone- First few days the battlefield will make you stressed and feel something bad, don't worry take a deep breath work just 30 mins on something which you want to do and do it everyday and let the results make the battlefield vanish. 

Hope you get the title, Jog for life it's not the compulsion of you, it's the compulsion for you, either you can make something or you can learn something and there is nothing wrong to fail. 

Keep Failing Keep Learning Keep Shining.

Art of Cooking 🔪

Have you ever wondered why cooking is an art?

How love, emotion and caring take an important role in making the process a great success and satisfaction after cooking a meal for others?

It's been one and a half months in Delhi, and I've started making new habits—especially the habit of cooking for myself at least three times a week, and I am pretty sure that I am doing that. So how did this journey start? When I was a 14-year-old, I came home after my tuition class with a growling sound in my stomach. I thought that my mom might have cooked something for me—hot, tasty, and colourful. Here comes the twist: on that day, mom went to some gathering, and my neighbour told me that she would be late today and said, "If you feel hungry, you can have some food with us."

I was unhappy, and I didn't want to eat at my neighbour's house. So I decided to cook something for myself. I didn't know how to make it, but my hungry stomach and confidence made me try to make some idlis and tomato chutney for my dinner that night.

Once my mom came home, she asked me, "Had your dinner?"

I said, "Mom, I made the dinner."

She was happy. That day marked the beginning of this journey. I started helping my mom in the kitchen after that day—started learning about ingredients, how to temper, how to measure, how to steam, how to make chapatis, how to clean the mess, and finally, how to cook with love and serve it with passion. Soon, new recipes, from India to France, entered my world as I started watching YouTube videos for unique dishes.

Cooking is an art. For instance, let's take BisiBeleBath (I made it today). From the thought process to the finished work, it needs a complete plan with patience. You need to measure how much rice and dal is needed, then decide which vessel would be suitable for this amount of rice, the water level, spices—and the most important secret: LOVE.

Sometimes, new hacks, new methods, and new recipes are born the day you start working with it. Sometimes you fail—no worries. I’ve had some major accidents with pressure cookers, but it never stopped me from learning. It helped me understand the importance of safety and precautionary measures.

Does emotion plays an important role in cooking? Yes it is, As we know cooking is an art - when both the mind and heart moves at a same pace. 

When I decide to cook, the first thing that comes to my mind is, "I will be happy if I cook for myself today." The amount of happy hormones that boost me during cooking is unimaginable, because I never feel tired even though I cook a meal for around 2 hours.

Here comes that satisfaction which keeps motivating me to cook every day. It’s not about the fancy recipes or expensive ingredients—it’s always about the love and compassion. And that’s why mom’s dosa is way better than Domino’s Pizza.

Bonus Tips: 

You will find a new way of cooking, and soon you learn the three im(P)ortant skills,

1. Patience 

2. Problem solving 

3. Proactive 

Once you start cooking you will realise the importance and value of food and how it makes you healthy and happy.

" The true cook never feels hungry when he cooks for others, he get satisfied when the eaters says Ummm yummy want more!"

Cook. Eat. Share the Love with the world.....

Learning A Language (What a 15 mins can do daily in building a habit ?)

"Learn while you Earn" few of my friends might know this phrase, it's my college initiative to help students learn while they earn. What's Now, after joining Jindal Realty i am earning as well as learning that's why i used that phrase here. 

Everyday is a learning for me. Learning in a new environment is challenging compare to a well know environment (Here i am defining environment is the place where i know the language, people, preference and taste).

Hindi it's not my mother tongue and I knew just the basic but not that much, at a point of time i realised, My father once said me to learn Hindi but I was not even interested to learn it, I love தமிழ் to the core. Then on my 11th grade admission, my school introduced French as a another option to the students and i was also  the one who took French as my another language in my borad exam, but learn a language for the sake of marks not gone a help you but it will give you some basic which is needed to converse your thoughts. What matters The Four Skills in any language LSRW (Listening, Speaking, Reading and Writing), once you master it and that's it boom you learnt a language but when you go deep into a language you will understand the history, philosophy, culture, etc...

After my 12th grade i thought of missing my language skills in french, so i decided to learn from any app and here comes "DUOLINGO" an amazing app which helped lot to enrich my knowledge in french. From basic to master i had streak of 643days continues learning which was my first time i realised what is consistent and discipline. 

And then due to some reasons i couldn't continue it and lost my streak. 

Now it's time for redemption, regaining my skills back but in a new language which is Hindi, happy that I am back to the form.

What a learning in 15 to 20 mins a day will reflect? 

You people don't believe, I started speaking in hindi not because of Duolingo but also the Environment which push me to do. My speaking skills are improving day by day also I started reading few words in hindi. Consistency Matters with a proper discipline. 

Soon i'm going to get my streak society batch in Doulingo. What the catch here: Just do It but do it daily make something a habit and heap forward. 

I will post my experience, challenges, super duolingo is neede or not and other queries in a next post after achieving my 100 days in Duolingo. 

For those who using Duolingo you can reach me by the following link or scan the Qr.

Sabarizz